The end of my month following The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. So do I believe in the magic?

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So my month following The Secret by Rhonda Byrne is over and it’s been a weird one. I’ve written fake cheques, bought a dress that doesn’t fit me and cleared out half my wardrobe, in the hope that it brings my dream man. But I still haven’t really got my head around the whole Genie in a bottle stuff of asking for anything you want and believing that my wish is the Universe’s command.

As my friend Zoe says, ‘so can I ask for bigger boobs?’ Exactly! Would The Secret argue that the universe would increase Zoe’s bust to Pamela Anderson proportions if she just believed that it was so?

I do believe that anything is possible if you put your mind to it – but I don’t think it happens by magic.

As David, a reader of the blog, posted – ‘By focusing Secret-style on what you want, you WILL see it everywhere because your brain will alert you to it. It alerts you to OPPORTUNITIES which can lead you to getting what you want. The basis is sound – it’s just that half of the foundation – the action – is glossed over in this book.’

That’s exactly how I feel. I want to believe in the fairytale but the talk of the Law of Attraction, energy, frequencies and metaphysics goes over my head.

That said, I did put a picture of a green smoothie on my Vision Board and then a day later got commissioned to write an article about kale smoothies (the editor had not read my post) so I am willing to believe that there are forces at work that I don’t understand. Am I contradicting myself? I think I am…but that’s what I’ve been doing in my head all month. I believe, I don’t believe…

Anyway, here are my high and low points with it:

Good points:

I found it very useful to clarify what it is that I do and don’t want in life. Initially I thought I wanted the nice car, nice house, nice wardrobe stuff (basically being richer and skinnier) but when I did my Vision Board I realised that actually all those things stress me out. What I’d really like is freedom, health, time, peace of mind, travel and a life full of interesting people. That was quite an eye opener and I would totally recommend the Vision Board exercise to anyone. It was very revealing.

Also, I love that this book gives people permission to dream big. I would not usually allow myself to talk about book deals and hot men and six figure cheques on the grounds of a) who do you think you are? (Such an Irish/English thing – heaven forbid we get ‘notions’ or ourselves) and b) ‘how’s it ever going to happen?’ defeatism. This book tells you not to worry about how it’s going to happen because the trusty Universe will sort it out.

As I said, I find it hard to believe that the Universe magically sends that £100,000 cheque but I think we should all have the guts to aim much higher than we do.  Perhaps then a combination or our actions and universal forces I don’t quite understand make amazing things possible?

Bad points 

The focus on cheques, houses, cars was too materialistic for my liking.

Finally the total glossing over of the work one should do in achieving one’s dreams made me uncomfortable too.

It’s hard not to get furious with talk of people in natural disaster being ‘on the same frequency as the event.’ As for the idea that food doesn’t really make you fat unless you think it does stuff, well…  it’s all a step too far for me.

General self-help stuff 

There are also other parts of the book that I haven’t written about but which have been good.

Like almost every self-help book out there The Secret focuses a lot on gratitude. It says that in order to have a happy life and to bring more into your life you must first appreciate what you have. One of the gurus in the book says that for the first 10 minutes of the day, from the moment he wakes up, brushes his teeth, has a shower etc, he will list in his head all the things he is grateful for.

I have been doing this every day for the last three weeks. The way it makes you feel is quite incredible. By nature I am somebody who wakes up in the morning worried about what the day might hold but this totally breaks that pattern and it’s fantastic.

The book also says to actively thank everybody in your life so I sent out emails to everybody who I love and care for to say thanks for the ways they make my life great. The responses were a) confused (are you sick?) but b) lovely. I think I’m pretty good at telling people how much I love them but it never hurts to do it again and to be specific about the ways they’re fantastic. A very easy feel-good thing to do for everyone.

Don’t have a negative thought 

The book also says that same as Susan Jeffers, in Feel the Fear, which is that staying positive is absolutely the name of the game. If you think positive, positive things will happen. Think negative and bad stuff will keep happening – so that means avoiding watching bad news, excusing yourself from negative moaning conversations, and not saying a bad thing about anybody. The book says that when you say or think bad things about someone else it’s only you who is hurt.

By nature I am a big smiler but I do tend to dwell and ruminate on the bad/sad stuff in life. I watch sad movies, listen to miserable music etc. This month I’ve become more aware of that tendency and have tried to stem it but the truth is I quite like feeling sad sometimes. It makes me feel deep! Ha! That’s embarrassing to admit but I think that’s what’s going on.

However, I have been making a concerted effort not to moan or bitch about other people – I haven’t always succeeded but I’ve noticed that when I do it, I always come away feeling bad about myself. I have realised I criticise others when there is something bothering me about myself such as a) I haven’t checked my bank balance all week (I really need six months with that money book) b) I am behind on my work c) I ate too much/drank too much. Criticising can be a pattern, a conversational habit to fall into, but I’d like to break it.

The end result   

As for the book deal and six-figure cheque. Well, it hasn’t happened – YET. The book proposal and chapter is with publishers now and we’ll see… I’ll keep you posted. Maybe The Secret has worked its magic because I have total faith that it’s all going to happen. Maybe not straight away but when the time is right.




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PS – THERE ARE OTHER BOOKS ON THE LAW OF ATTRACTION which a lot of people say are more convincing than The Secret. If it’s something you are interested in, try E2 by Pam Grout (which I am only half way through but which has DIY experiments designed to PROVE the Law of Attraction), google Abraham Hicks or dig out the self-help classic Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill. I love that book – it’s based on the same idea that there is  ‘secret’ shared by successful people, which is having a grand vision, but it’s must more thorough in advising you to have a goal, a plan, put in hard work, be persistent etc…

33 Responses

  1. Louize says:

    Fantastic news! Can’t wait to read it! Funny was just thinking I hadn’t heard from you for a while only this morning! Spooky

    • Marianne Power says:

      Thank you Louize, it’s funny how that works, isn’t it?

      • Karen Bird says:

        At last. Congratulations and more well deserved.
        So all that blood sweat and tears have paid off.
        I’m very pleased for you, it’s made my day hearing from you.
        I will be moving next week into the unknown with a new puppy
        and thanks to you I’ve taken the chance of a new chapter in my life
        Continue the good work.

        • Marianne Power says:

          Thank you, Karen. Where are you moving to? Tell me more – good luck with everything. Be brave. New chapters are scary but good. Keep in touch. xx

  2. Francesco Cervellera says:

    Congratulation 🙂

  3. Niki Longmuir says:

    I’m thrilled for you, that’s utterly wonderful…! Well done, xxxxx

  4. Susan Sims says:

    I’m so thrilled for you!! Dancing ’round the room on your behalf xxx

    • Marianne Power says:

      Thank you Susan! Dancing down under… I love it. Thank you for being such a great cheerleader throughout all of it – it meant such a lot. xx

  5. Helen says:

    Congratulations. Such great news. You’re an inspiration – you believed in something and kept doggedly on even when times weren’t so easy. Well done. I’ve loved reading your posts – they’ve been insightful and entertaining. Can’t wait to hear what the next bit of new is.

    • Marianne Power says:

      Thank you Helen – it felt very dogged!!! But worth it now, thank god. How are you? Thanks for the lovely words – I’ll be blogging more regularly from now on.

  6. Maria says:

    Well done Marianne, I have followed you from the beginning.

    So great to hear of your success. I wish you all the best, you deserve it.


  7. Claire says:

    This is awesome news Marianne!! You’ve cheered up my day 100% xxx

  8. Rebecca Coleman says:

    I’m sure we decided about 3 years ago at one of Claire’s parties who would play you in the film but now I can’t remember who we settled on!

  9. YAAAAAYYY!!! As I said on FB, it’s brilliant news and so well deserved. I can’t wait to read it!! xxxx

  10. Sue Faldo says:

    So very pleased for you I know what a traumatic few years it’s been for you! At last a light at the end of the tunnel and not just a light a huge bright shining starlight. You deserve it and may you now go from strength to strength. Well done!
    SueX ( Sarah’s mum)

  11. Linda says:

    Fantastic news, Im so pleased for you .YYYYYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  12. Oh. My. God! You did it Marianne! So MASSIVELY MASSIVELY happy for you, proud for you and doing whoop whoops around the room here. I can’t wait to see who plays you in the film xxxx

    • Marianne Power says:

      Thank you Amanda – we got there in the end!!! Lovely to hear from you. I’ve been doing a lot of whooping too. I hope you are well. xxx

  13. una says:

    Fantastic, reminding of this quote I saw recently
    “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” — Thomas Edison
    You never gave up. Congrats.

    • Marianne Power says:

      Oh Una I love this quote. Thank you. I didn’t give up, it’s true. It was never even an option – even when things were hard. Lovely to hear from you. I hope you are well.

  14. Ali says:

    Congratulations! Can’t wait to read it all again 😊 and look forward to hearing your other news ….. xxx

  15. paul says:

    Marianne (or Bette Midler as you still are in my phone contacts – remember……??? !!)

    Just saw your message and so, so pleased for you………..lots to say and ask and from here I’ll contact Rebecca and see if we cant get together. Have thought of you often and this is just great news

    Much Love



  16. Rosie Gray says:

    Congratulations Marianne. So delighted to hear it all came right in the end. Get ready now for fame and maybe a little bit of fortune. xxx

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