This morning I set my alarm for 6.30am and I actually got up. No, really I did. No snoozing, no groaning, no anything except getting up.
Then I sat on my bed did something called PRIMING for ten minutes (see below).
THEN I went for a very brisk walk around the block before coming back and drinking about four glasses of water with lemon (I had coffee too) and dancing around the kitchen to Calvin Harris and that Radioactive song I’m obsessed with. I literally jumped up and down, putting my hands up in the air. The cat looked truly confused.
At 7.40, a time when I’m usually still under my duvet, I was at my computer writing an article that was finished by 10.30am, when I made myself a green juice.
If I was any more efficient, I would be running the country. I don’t recognise myself anymore.
Suffice to say the Tony effect continues and the biggest thing I’ve taken from it are the tiny physical changes we need to make every day to feel better. For a girl who lives far too much in her head, I’m being reminded of just how powerful the body is – and how silly things like dancing in the morning and sitting up straight can make the difference between a good day and a bad day.
Tony says that quickest way to change your mood is to change your body.
The first thing to do is to IMPROVE YOUR POSTURE – which means, shoulder back, chest up, eyes looking straight ahead – no slumping at the laptop. He says the second we slump, our body communicates with the brain that we are depressed. If we sit up straight and our posture is open, however, our brain chemistry changes to make us feel stronger and more confident. So I keep sticking my chest out at my desk (well, kitchen table).
The next thing is to MOVE YOUR ASS all the time. Forget coffee breaks (coffee is acid, remember), what you need is movement breaks. So that’s what I’ve been doing – every half an hour or so I’ll put on a song really loud and jump – literally jump – along to it. The jumping does brilliant things to get blood flowing and oxygen moving apparently. It’s handy, of course, that I work from home. I’m not sure how you’d do it in the office.
I have also been doing EXERCISE most days – walking/running on the Heath – and only drank two glasses of wine all weekend (on Friday for a friend’s birthday Instead, I’ve been drinking lots of ‘Green muck‘ as my friend Rebecca calls it. I’ve been blitzing spinach, apple, cucumber, courgettes and anything else that’s green in a blender. I think it tastes nice but others disagree.
But back to the very start of the day … every morning for the last two weeks I’ve been starting the day with something called PRIMING. Tony does it every day and it sets him up to be, well you know, a mega self-improvement God. Here’s how it goes:
1. Sit upright on your bed with your eyes closed. Keep your feet on the floor.
2. Take 30 explosive breaths in and out through your nose, while raising your hands up and down. Make sure to inhale and exhale through your stomach and do it really quickly. I think all the oxygen is meant to be a real energy boost – at least that’s how it feels to me. Warning though – snot can come flying out of your nose if you’re doing the breaths really strongly. Oh well, think of if as a clearing of the system.
3. Think of 3 things you are grateful for. Make sure at least one of them is a really small thing – like the warmth of your socks, or the sun in the window. The idea is that you’re remembering the little things that make life great. Don’t just think about them, really feel how grateful you are, so that the feeling is almost overwhelming.
4. Do three minutes of long, slow breathing, picturing energy coming in through your head and flowing through your body, into the ground and back up again. This is meant to be very healing, you also imagine sending love and energy out to your friends and loved ones.
5. Think of 3 things you want to create in your life. It can be things you want to create for that day, that week, that month, year, or at any moment. It can be anything you want. See them as if they are real.
This morning I was grateful for my cardigan (it’s from M&S and it’s as snuggly as a hug), for my friends and for my journalism work which as kept money ticking in as I do my blog. I also thought of all my colleagues and how grateful I am to know them. It was lovely. It reminded me that I am already beyond blessed and have everything I need in life.
Then when it came to what I wanted to create, I pictured a job I’m doing this afternoon going well and everyone being nice to each other. I pictured myself sitting at the laptop typing my book this summer and it feeling easy and good. I pictured myself a year from now in my own flat with a sense of security and structure (something lacking until now) and with money in the bank. I had a feeling of being in control (again, not my usual state). It felt really good.
And the best thing of all? These goals didn’t feel like fantasy, they felt like they had already happened. My dream future felt absolutely real, inevitable almost. Well, come on, if I keep getting up at 6.30am and staying away from the wine, surely anything is possible?!
Love to you all
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